Thanks to increased access to birth control, couples in the professional and managerial classes were stopping after their second or third kid.These parents did not have to exercise the kind of severe discipline that had been needed to keep order in households of nine or ten.In the 1940s and ’50s, Alfred Kinsey defined petting as “deliberately touching body parts above or below the waist” (thus distinguishing it from “necking,” or general body contact sustained while making out).In terms of the baseball metaphor, petting covered everything between first base and home plate.I could hardly find anyone who wasn’t in a relationship and who wasn’t engaged in some serious PDA all over the place, complete with holding hands, wearing matching clothes, constantly uploading a super-couple-y profile picture on Facebook and so on.
Before hooking up, there was “petting,” and everyone was doing it.
But aside from visual aspects, girls in the States expect to live their lives like Barbie in her dreamhouse, with her super-manly successful boyfriend. But while these expectations are high, I often find that putting guys on a pedestal and doing anything in order to get their attention is a big part of getting to this ultimate goal.
In America, guys get to be cool players who are allowed to switch between different pretty girl-toys who will simply obey their preferences.
My theory is that Europeans feel a lot safer in their tiny familiar communities, little towns and social circles where everyone knows everyone, that they are a lot more afraid to commit to one person within this already-figured-out social life.
Americans, on the other hand, can feel a lot more lost in the crowd of a huge, diverse population and thus are more likely to commit to someone without making it the search for the Holy Grail.