It is a choice to wait for God’s best, for His glory.It is a decision to walk by faith, to trust in God, to honor others above yourself, and to believe that God will deal bountifully with you, because He is love.Although the termination of a courtship most likely will be painful, damage and hurt—which can lead to bitterness—can be avoided.Both parties, as well as their families and all the people who love them, should continue to trust in the Lord and accept the grace He gives to deal with any disappointment or unfulfilled hopes. The main difference between dating and courtship involves the goals to be reached by spending time with a potential marriage partner.(See Proverbs 3:5–7.) Courtship is a choice to avoid temptation and experience the blessings of purity.It is a choice to not emotionally give away your heart, piece by piece, to many others through casual dating relationships and instead to give your whole heart to your life partner.Jesus gave this instruction with a promise: (Matthew ).When a person makes a growing relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ the foundation of all decisions—as he or she seeks God’s kingdom—God will provide all that is needed, including the marriage partner prepared by God just for that person.
The dating couple is merely attracted to one another in some way and often pursues an exclusive relationship that is independent of others’ influence or counsel.As they establish guidelines for their relationship, they can more easily recognize that God also holds them responsible to honor one another.Receiving God’s grace and the support of others strengthens them to maintain their commitment to purity.If, during the courtship, one or both parties realize that marriage is not God’s will and they end the relationship, the courtship has not failed.On the contrary, the courtship was successful, because God gave the direction that was sought through it.